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How to Create the Perfect Jewish Wedding

Posted April 29, 2010 by in Articles | Comments Off

The excitement of the engagement still lingers amongst family and friends and very soon the invitations for the Jewish Wedding will be sent. This is always a very special event in the life of the Jewish community and all invited guests will be preparing well before the special wedding day.


The Jewish faith has very important traditions that need to be observed during the wedding and so, with an efficient and organized wedding planner, the family can get on with making sure the traditions of the ceremony are all in place to make this a day to remember. I thought that the best way to ensure that nothing is missed in the planning process, a step by step approach would be best.


Here it is!


  • Give yourself plenty of time to choose the wedding venue that you would like as they are generally booked up months and sometimes years ahead. It is important that the Rabbi and guests are all able to get to it.


  • Make sure you have the traditional marriage contract in place. This is called a “Ketubbah” and it outlines the rights and responsibilities of the married couple to each other. It is crucial that this marriage contract is prepared well in advanced because if you don’t have it in place, then the marriage may not be solemnized.


  • The person who will have the “Ketubbah” for keeping is the wife. All throughout the marriage she will have it in her possession. Two witnesses sign the document and it becomes a legal and binding document. It can be a most beautifully presented piece of work. The “Ketubbah” is read between the “Kiddushin”, which is the betrothal and the “Nissuin” or marriage.


  • Most important to the ceremony is the “Huppah”. This is a wedding canopy where the special couple will exchange their vows. It is here that the couple will experience the betrothal and the marriage proper. Apart from the ceremonial significance, the “Huppah” is a very decorative aspect of the wedding ceremony.


  • Generally speaking, Jewish weddings tend to be quite large and so it is important that you are able to invite the most important people in your lives. This will obviously include family, would be family and close friends.


  • Just in case, have extra yarmulke on hand for guests who forget to bring their own.


  • In the Jewish tradition of marriage, the soul and character are extremely important to the marriage. In fact, just as important as the physical attraction. To symbolize this, there is a veiling ritual or “Badeken” where the groom puts the veil over the face of the bride. This comes once the Groom has affirmed that the bride is the woman he intends to marry.


  • The rings chosen should be gold, plain and without engraving. This is to signify that the marriage will reflect simplicity as well as beauty. The procedure will include the groom placing the ring in his hand in the presence of two witnesses and declaring his allegiance. The Chatan will then place the ring on the right hand forefinger of the bride. According to Jewish law this is an act that makes the marriage official.


  • Make sure to ask the guests to read out loud the seven blessings. Over the second cup of wedding wine, the seven blessings link the wedded couple to their faith in God as the creator, provider of love and happiness and the saviour.


  • Ensure that after the recitation of the seven blessings, the Kallah and Chatan drink some more wine as part of the ceremony.


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