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Making the Best of Your Relationship With Your New Mother-in-Law

Posted September 30, 2011 by in Articles | No comments yet

As the old jokes and sitcoms tell it, one of the biggest problems in every marriage is the interference of the bride’s mother-in-law. Most women feel that they are better equipped to handle their son’s needs better than a younger wife can. If you were a fan of the show “Bewitched”, then imagine a mother-in-law treating her new daughter like Samantha’s mother treated her son-in-law on the show. The problem isn’t as bad as stereotypes will lead you to believe, but there are a few marriages in which the mother-in-law causes too much interference. When it does, you need to know what you’re looking at and come up with ways to diffuse a potentially-difficult situation.

It’s true that a mother-in-law can be an antagonist when it comes to sharing her precious son with another woman. Some of them even treat their daughter-in-laws like they don’t even exist. It may be that she’s just being nervous around this new person in her life and her own new role in her son’s life, and if your husband is paying more attention to her than to you, it might just be his years of caring about his mother’s feelings that are coming into play. Give him, and her, the benefit of the doubt. Most men don’t act well when they find themselves caught between two women, and you have to recognize the fact that there will always be a relationship between those two.

Don’t be surprised if your mother-in-law doesn’t immediately accept you. You may just end up feeling like an outsider to the family. It’s best that you avoid playing this type of game with your mother-in-law though. You should take your time with the relationship. Don’t try to forge a strong bond that really isn’t even there yet. It’s usually best that you allow your mother-in-law time to get to know you. If not, console yourself with the fact that she won’t always be in your lives and that eventually you will have your husband all to yourself.

It’s not uncommon for some mother-in-laws to refuse to accept the fact that things have changed after their sons have gotten married. This can really hurt you, but try not to let your feelings get the best of you. Your new married relationship is different for everyone involved, and it’s going to take some time for all of you to get used to the altered arrangement. If you don’t let her behavior get to you, then you and her should have a civil relationship. You aren’t the only one that’s been in this same situation. It’s a part of married life that lots of people have to go through. Doc No. 34Sdlhgsdl -sds

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on Save my marriage and stop divorce

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